Long Distance Relationship Guide: A Simple Guide for Christian with Tips on How to Make A Long Distance Relationship Work by Hill T C

Author:Hill, T C [Hill, T C]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Unknown
Published: 2013-03-27T16:00:00+00:00

Old Sarum Prayer

God be in head and in my understanding;

God be in my eyes and in my looking;

God be in my mouth and in my speaking;

God be in my heart and in my thinking;

God be at my end and at my departing.

Amen

CHAPTER VI: How to Deal with Opposition

The simple believe everything, but the clever consider their steps.

Proverbs 14:15

Where there is no guidance, a nation falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.

Proverbs 11:14

Some of you may have already brooded over the pros and cons of the long-distance relationship with your partner, family, friends, and/or pastors and maybe per-haps, you may have found direct opposition to it. So what now? On one hand, the people you trust and consult are saying that the long-distance relationship isn’t a good idea. On the other, depending on whether you have a choice or not and if the two of you don’t intend to end the relationship, the long-distance aspect might be an advantageous opportunity for you and your partner.

There really is no cover-all answer here. Every situation differs from one another and vary in an infinite number of ways. However, there is a way to go about making the decision to pursue a long-distance relationship or not with the advice of your pastors and peers.

First, it’s important to recognize that your family, friends, and pastors know you in a way that you seldom witness - the manifested self. An individual knows himself and the motivations ( or lack of) behind each behavior, but outside perspectives reveal other insights. Think about the characteristics you know about your closest friends that they might not even realize they have - it’s a side of themselves that they don’t get the pleasure of witnessing like everyone else does. The point is that we come to know ourselves better by the help of the people around us. It’s not a question of whether I know myself better or whether my friends know me better than I know myself - it’s about putting together all perspectives to form one whole picture. That’s one of the many benefits of being in community - others help us to realize our true selves.

With that, it’s important to recognize that your friends and pastors probably love you and are thinking towards you and your partner’s benefit. I say “probably” because I sincerely hope you don’t have friends and pastors whom you trust who would do the contrary - unfortunately, that’s not always the case.

You must consider the fact that your pastors/peers are looking out for you (how-ever accurate their assessment may be); what you and your partner determine what is viable to do as a couple; and what you feel God is calling you to do. Consider carefully. It’s a sign of respect to adhere to someone else’s advice (assuming it’s sound and just) because it shows that one values their opinion. However, if you and your partner have discerned together and are realistic and reasonable in concluding that it’s a good idea - talk it over with your family, friends, and pastors again.

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